Preparing for a resignation

Q:  I have been working for three years in a role where I have been increasingly dissatisfied.  This is a first for me in a 20-year career.  Prior to this role, I had two eight-plus year stints, where I was quite happy and satisfied.  This has been a different experience for me.  The man I have been working for has been controlling, vindictive and distant.  I have never experienced anything quite like this before.  It has been a wake-up call.  I have accepted a new position and am starting in mid-September.  When I have resigned before, I gave plenty of notice to ensure a smooth transition.  I am not sure I can do that again.  My nerves are frayed and my stress level is at an all-time high.  What do you recommend?

A:  I am sorry you are so dissatisfied.  At least the end is near.  After three years, it sounds like you have given this role plenty of time to improve, but it still has not met your expectations.  It is time to move on.

First, develop a written transition plan.  Think about who can assume tasks, responsibilities and projects which you are now handling.  There may be some projects which may need to be postponed or deferred to a later date.

Second, compile a list of your most important contacts, both internally and externally.  This list should include name, title, context, email and telephone numbers.  Assuming your employer decides to replace you, this will be helpful to your replacement.

I would give two weeks’ notice but not more.  It sound like you may need to take some time off to recharge your batteries before you start a new role.  You want to begin a new role with lots of energy and enthusiasm.  You will need time off after you leave your current role — time to decompress and spend on yourself.  This will be important to your mental health and your stress level.

By developing a transition plan and leaving it behind, you are being a responsible corporate citizen.  You are making it easy for someone to step into your shoes and assume many of your old responsibilities.  You may also choose to leave your new company contact information in case your replacement has questions for you after you have left the company.  Good luck in your new role.  Please take that time off.  It is important to do!

Pattie Hunt Sinacole is a human resources expert and works for First Beacon Group in Hopkinton, an HR consulting firm. She contributes weekly to Boston.com Jobs and the Boston Sunday Globe Money & Careers section.